That’s a question I’m asked again and again, but it’s not that easy to answer.
Of course, I could now calculate how much money I had to take into my own hands. But that probably wouldn’t really help you, because the costs depend completely on which path you decide to take to get pregnant:
- Insemination at home,
- insemination or
- an IVF treatment in a clinic.
I hope, I can bring some light into the darkness with the following information. Not just in regarding to the involved costs but also in regard to the different possibilities to get pregnant as a single woman.
Costs for insemination at home
In any case, this is the cheapest option, which can cost from practically free to several hundred francs per experiment. The costs depend strongly on what you do directly with the sperm donor you’ve chosen and whether the natural method is suitable for you. Yes there are sperm donors out there for whom this is really an important fact. I’m not even going to try to analyse this…
What you should know, however, is that neither of you is legally protected. Not the mother and not the donor.
Contracts that have been deliberately signed by both parties are invalid and will not be recognized by any court in Switzerland. This means that you could sue for alimony from the donor, but in return he could also sue you for joint custody.
Trust in the donor is therefore enormously important here!
But maybe you have chosen co-parenting and know the donor personally, then of course this uncomplicated way is almost inevitable and there is not much more to think about. Unless – of course -there are health reason that would make getting pregnant this way impossible or harder.
Costs for insemination (iui) in the clinic
Since you are unlikely to find a clinic in Switzerland that inseminates single women or lesbian couples, the cost here depend very much on which country you travel to to become pregnant. As, consequently, you will also have to add flight and hotel costs.
The best country known for this is probably Denmark, at least in lesbian circles. It would probably also be possible in Spain, the Netherlands and Belgium; there are probably also isolated clinics in our neighboring country Germany that help single women and/or lesbian couples despite the legislation being uncertain.
Probably it is also possible in other countries, but these are the ones I know of.
Of course, it is also possible to inseminate in a clinic with the semen of a well-known donor and thus save the costs for the donor sperm – again probably most appropriate for women who have opted for the co-parenting method.
If, like me, you choose a donor you don’t know personally, you can usually read the costs directly on the website of the clinic or sperm bank you have chosen. But there are differences there as well.
For example, the donor sperm from an anonymous* donor (also often called no donor) is cheaper than the sperm from a (yes) donor who is willing to be in contact with the child later.
* However, I personally advise against choosing anonymous donor sperm at this point! But this is another topic that I will certainly talk about in another post…
And it depends also on whether one carries out the Insemination without the support of hormones.
I only got an injection once to trigger ovulation, so that I didn’t have to sit on coals for the whole holiday I spent there. If you need these injections more often than just once, it can get quite expensive.
Costs for IVF treatment
IVF treatment is used when the chances of becoming pregnant by insemination are extremely low, e.g. due to age or an irregular cycle (according to my gynaecologist a hint that something may not be right and it that it may be harder to get pregnant).
IVF is by far the most expensive way to become pregnant, as hormone treatment is indispensable, several examinations and treatments are necessary and the embryos are bred in the laboratory before they can be inserted into the uterus.
In short, IVF treatment is very costly, and therefore expensive.
Unfortunately, I can’t tell you much more about it. I was in the lucky position that the insemination already led to a pregnancy at the third attempt, accordingly, I didn’t have to look into artificial insemination any further.
However, in order to give you an idea of how expensive it can be, visit the websites of the clinics that are suitable for you. They have mostly published the corresponding costs on their website and are happy to provide further information if you have any questions.
Further information (in German)
For those of you who at least undertand a little German: My friend Hanna from Germany that is running the Single Mom by Choice blog solomamapluseins.de has just recently contacted clinics all around Germany and consolidated a list of clinics that are willing to help single women to get pregnant. She has also included clinics from Denmark, the Netherlands and Spain. This list also provides you – among other helpful information – with the approx. costs for the different procedures such as iui and ivf.
Link to her post on the topic: Singlefreundliche Kinderwunschkliniken in Deutschland